If you just want to have a conversation, Bradley has a foolproof trick: Set your alarm for midnight. The adolescent brain kicks in late at night, and teens will actually talk if you just hang with them. Can’t stay awake at that hour? “I think about waving goodbye in a couple of years,” says Bradley. Works better than a double espresso.

Above all, hang on to your sense of humor. Teenagers still don’t have all their brain equipment, and they really are a little crazy. Just like potty training, this, too, shall pass. And if relaxing on a beach makes it pass more quickly, hey, who’s to argue?