You know why? Because I’ve grown, that’s why. I’ve come to recognize that successful traveling depends on give-and-take. It’s not just me-me-me. It’s about the other person’s needs too.

For example, if she wants, Jessica can stay in the car and listen to the radio while I go to the local market. That’s okay.

Over the years, we’ve adapted to one another’s traveling penchants. Sometimes she’ll come with me to the market, and we will leave before I am ready but before she cries.

Of course, not all of them have hot lime chutney. And that’s all right.

Because maybe the most important thing you learn about traveling with another person is that you can’t always get what you want. But, if you’re lucky, you just might get some freshly made poblano mole at a sprawling mercado in Oaxaca, Mexico.